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long time gone [Mar. 14th, 2011|11:28 am]
Queer Trying to Conceive

[Current Location |work]
[mood |sadsad]

It's been almost 3 years since I have been here and I had almost forgotten what this feels like.
My wife and I were incredibly lucky to have conceived our (now almost 3) year old daughter  using donor sperm- after 13 IUIs, inj drugs and more money then we ever had to spend on the process.

We decided in the fall to try again- feeling optimistic we launched only to find we had absolutely no insurance coverage for ANYTHING in reproductive endocrinology.  So we began this trip of doing the IUIs ourselves.  I am fortunate enough to have the knowledge to do the IUI safely and well in our bedroom.  

We are now 7 IUI cycles in and still no conception. 
So depressing. I was really fine and optimistic until this cycle- for some reason I feel awful this time. 

I can't reconcile my role in this and for the 1st time feel like being a transguy is reventing me from having something I want.  I feel inadequate as a man, partner, lover and even on some level as a dad.

What a shitty ride.......

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we're ready to start [Jun. 5th, 2010|10:42 pm]
Queer Trying to Conceive

We've come to the point emotionally and financially where we are ready to start TTC.  I went to the dr. this week.  She reviewed my temp charts and said everything looked healthy.  I did get some blood work done to see if I needed any immunizations or had any other issues before we started.  But, there is no reason to believe that I'll have any problems.  I don't have the best fertile mucus.  Some months I have it, other months I don't.

I think we are going to get frozen spermies from the Midwest bank.  They have good prices and seem to have good results.

We had been planning on trying at home for a while.  But, the Dr. suggested that we get IUI b/c there is a much better chance of getting pregnant from an IUI than an at home insem.  Now, we are trying to do figure out what we want to do.  We want to be pregnant as soon as possible, and if that means spending a little more money to get it done more quickly we are willing to do that.

So, are IUIs really that much better?  I think the price difference is about $200 between 1 IUI and 2 vials of sperm for at home. 
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Lesbians that have used IVF or adopted? [Feb. 1st, 2010|05:22 pm]
Queer Trying to Conceive

Hi all,

I work for She Magazine and we are putting together a piece about 
modern families. I'm looking for a lesbian couple in the UK who have either 
adopted or used IVF to have a child.

The subject will of course be treated sensitively and the article will be intelligent and insightful. No sensationalism. We want to inspire and empower women who may in the same position.

We can't pay you, unfortunately, but we will get you down to London for
 an all expenses paid photo shoot. As well as this, we will conduct a
 telephone interview with you so that you can tell your story. 

If you're interested in appearing in She Magazine, please drop me an email at shefeatures@natmags.co.uk


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NEW TO TTC [Aug. 12th, 2009|02:50 pm]
Queer Trying to Conceive

[mood |contentcontent]

Hey guys this is something new to us and we are here to ask for help. I'm here to ask some questions and to continue to learn the process of TTC. Is there anyone using fresh sperm from a known donor and doing at home inseminations? How come so many women are using clomid if they have no infertility issues. My girl and I are both very fertile and have no issues with getting pregnant. I'm wondering if Lesbians are just taking clomid to try to get pregnant faster?  I have read several blogs , but they really don't tell a lesbian thats doing at home inseminations any particular steps to take. I do have insurance and have not yet went to the Dr to get help. My insurance does cover 50 percent  for fertility issues. Is there anyone out there that has became pregnant on there own with no help from dr's or from medicine, that did this between the two of you at home?
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An update and please vote [Jun. 26th, 2009|07:35 am]
Queer Trying to Conceive

Just a little update.
I'm going to be inseminated next week. We're wanting a #2 kid:) I am so excited!!

and for something else:

If you are on Facebook then please vote for India by pressing the "I like this" button.
And get everyone you know to vote for her too, please:)

Link is here: www.facebook.com/photo.php

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AI supplies? [Mar. 12th, 2009|02:32 pm]
Queer Trying to Conceive

[Current Location |home sweet home]
[mood |curiouscurious]
[music |How Can I Keep From Singing?]

hey, did any of you try AI at home?  where did you look for a syringe?  all the ones i'm finding in drug stores are really short and are intended as kids' medicine droppers.  i'm not put off by that, but by the size.

i know this is probably a rotten source of valid scientific information, but on the episode of L word where Bette and Tina were trying AI at home, they had a syringe with a long "nose" on it... like thin, flexible extension of the syringe end.  any idea where to find such a thing?  or what a good search phrase would be?  i'm EXTREMELY hesitant to scar my eyes and brain forever with what Google might return if i searched for "lesbian pregnancy syringe"...

and while we're on the topic, any brand recommendations or pans on ovulation testers?  any features to look for or avoid?

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New member [Jan. 16th, 2009|01:26 pm]
Queer Trying to Conceive

[Current Location |work]
[mood |coldcold]

Just wanted to say Hello.
I just joined this community today.
I am 25 and happily married with my wife for 2,5 years now. We live in Denmark.
We have a daughter, India, she is 1,5 years old now and it was my wife carrying.
We want another child soon and it's my time to be pregnant! I can't wait. I feel like I have been born to give life to children:)

We used an unknown donor for India and bought 10 portions of semen to use for future children.
I'm glad we decided that, because even though their moms will be different they will still have the same donor and therefore they are geneticly combined.

Please feel free to ask any questions:)
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Intro [Jan. 1st, 2009|08:57 pm]
Queer Trying to Conceive

well..here we go! This is starting to make it official i guess, kind of scary to be honest.

Any ways, I am Bio Femme, 26, living in Eugene, Oregon, married to a fantastic, handsome, and wickedly wonderful FtM who is 36. We have been together for going on 4 years (lost count to be honest), and Married officially for 2 years on June 22nd. We are officially TTC starting this month. I am going to carry, and He is going to get me preggo (via a syringe and a buddy of ours who is willing to donate). We are very excited, scared, and looking forward to this new chapter of our life. now, on to a question....or ten...

1. For others who have gone the artificial insemination at home rout, and have had a friend donate the goo, how have you protected your self against the friend trying to come back later on and trying to get rights to the child? i guess my concern is that at a later date, with out some sort of paper work involved, that our friend (even though i dont think he would), could try to get some sort of rights to the future child.

we really dont have any other option beside this, or me going out and finding random guy at a bar..-shudders- no thanks...so i guess i also want to know, how did this work out for you?


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queer friendly OB/GYN in Dallas, TX? [Dec. 3rd, 2008|03:04 pm]
Queer Trying to Conceive

i'm looking for a recommendation of a gay friendly OB/GYN in dallas. preferably, somewhere near where i live, but that's certainly less important than good qualifications. i live near the I-635 and US 75 interchange. so, if you know of a good, queer-friendly OB/GYN in the area, speak up! thanks!

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(no subject) [Oct. 30th, 2008|12:01 am]
Queer Trying to Conceive
Hi. I'm Adam. I'm 18 and a FTM,pre-physical transistion.

I have been going through wanting to become pregnant, give birth, and raise kids for about 2 or 3 months now. Well, I've always wanted kids but never this badly and to this extent.

I have a boyfriend...and the funny thing is he wants to get pregnant,too. As in, he wants to CARRY a baby INISIDE him. He's gay a bit effiminate, but definately not MTF or anything like that. For a while, I thought this hilarious, but now I REALLY understand him.

So, we both want to get pregnant...only I'm the only one who can. The bad thing is, though, we're both in college. I'm a cosmetology major, and should be in school for another year and a half. He's a video game design major and is going for four years: 2 years at the college where we are now and then onto Full Sail University in Florida(we live in Mississippi) for another 2 years.

I have a few questions:

I will be getting my certificate and all in a year and a half or less. I will be doing hair, make-up, and possibly tattoos and piercings. You can make some pretty good money right there. Not TOTALLY rich, but still. He works pretty good jobs and he's got good finaicial aid and good grades and all.

Should we wait to try to conceive AFTER he graduates and gets his degree? Or can we do it after we just get financialy stable? Yes, I realize how expensive children are, espeically in this generation. And I do realize that you have to READY to raise children...and for the right reasons.

Should I wait to do hormones AFTER i give birth?

When I change my name legally can my name change on my children's birth certificates? Will I also have to go through a bunch of other legal shit with my kids as I transistion to male?

Please answer my questions. Thank you for your time. Have a good night.


P.S. Any other FTMs in my situation or have "been there, done that"?

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